Husband in Pursuit: 31 Daily Challenges for Loving Your Wife Well is a short, action-first book for married men. You read a page or two, then you do something for your wife that day. Thirty-one days, thirty-one actions.
Both names belong on the cover
This one is worth getting right. The book is credited to Ryan Frederick and Selena Frederick, a married couple who write and speak on marriage together. Ryan is listed first, and plenty of places online drop Selena’s name entirely. She is a co-author, not a contributor, and it matters here more than it usually would: a book teaching a husband how to pursue his wife was written with the wife in the room.
It is one half of a matched pair
This is the piece most reviews leave out. Husband in Pursuit is Book 1 of a two-volume set called The 31 Day Pursuit Challenge. Book 2 is Wife in Pursuit: 31 Daily Challenges for Loving Your Husband Well, written by the same two authors with Selena listed first. They are built to be read at the same time, by both spouses, over the same thirty-one days.
You can absolutely read this one alone, and a man who wants to pursue his wife without waiting for permission should. But if you buy it expecting a complete program and your wife is willing, you are buying half of one. Know that going in so you can decide whether to get both.
What a day actually looks like
Each of the thirty-one entries pairs a short reading with a specific “Pursuit Challenge,” which is an assignment rather than a reflection. Write the note. Plan the evening. Ask the question you have been avoiding. The theological spine running through the whole thing is straightforward: Christ pursued you first, and a husband’s love for his wife is meant to echo that.
The reading itself is brief. This is not a book that will take you deep into the text of Ephesians 5 or work carefully through what headship means. It is a book that gets a man to stop reading and go do something. Judge it as that and it holds up well.
An honest note on what we could not confirm
Earlier versions of this review described discussion questions and reflection prompts attached to each day. We could not verify that from the publicly available preview, and we are not going to repeat it. What is confirmed is the structure above: a daily reading and a daily challenge. If you need a formal discussion guide for a couples’ group, check the preview before you buy.
The book is independently published rather than issued through a traditional publishing house, which is worth knowing but says nothing about whether it works. Plenty of the most useful marriage resources of the last decade came out this way.
Who this is for
It suits a husband who already knows what is wrong and is tired of thinking about it. The thirty-one-day frame is short enough to finish and concrete enough that your wife will notice something changed before you are done. It also works as a reset after a rough stretch, or as a gift a man will actually use.
It is a weaker fit if you are looking for depth. A man wrestling with a genuinely hard marriage, or one who wants to understand the biblical case for how a husband loves his wife, needs something heavier alongside it. Use this to build the habit, not to answer the hard questions.
The bottom line
A simple, well-aimed book that asks for action instead of agreement. Buy it if you want a month of concrete steps. Buy both volumes if your wife is willing to do it with you, because that is how it was designed.
Husband in Pursuit on Amazon ยท Wife in Pursuit, the companion volume